Editor’s Note: This post first appeared on Shauna Smith’s blog, bipolar2happiness.com, and she has graciously allowed me to re-publish it to my blog. I’ve featured Shauna on my blog before, and also featured her co-owner of LeanOnUs.co, Sonya Palasiuk, discussing how the idea of LeanOnUs came about. Sonya and Shauna are two of the sweetest, most caring, greatest people I’ve met on Twitter and I can never thank them enough for their support with the blog and being there for me when I’ve had a rough time. Thanks Shauna and Sonya!! I love you.
The Love of a Mother
By Shauna Smith
My girls mean the world to me. I have watched them grow into these beautiful young women. I don’t mean beautiful in just the way they look, I mean they are beautiful people inside.
Thoughtful, caring, moral and real are just a few ways to describe my girls. I am very proud of who they strive to be, how much they care for others and how they don’t always think of themselves first. They are not perfect. They make mistakes. They are teenagers, so attitude is just part of life now, but they are loving people even when they are trying not to be.
I have tried to teach them to respect themselves and, even though my oldest is struggling with this because of her lack of confidence, I do believe they will respect themselves as adults and need others do the same. My oldest, especially, since she requires that from her father, even though she doesn’t get the respect she deserves as a person from him!
My oldest is smart, beautiful, sensitive, caring, thoughtful and very capable of anything she wishes in life. She suffers with Bipolar II Disorder, just like I do, but she has been treated since she was young, and I believe it will not keep her from being a very successful woman! I believe she will end up in a field that helps others. She is excited about the prospect of driving and getting a job. I believe a job would do wonders for her confidence level! She is creative and a bit artsy! She is full of anxiety at times but doesn’t let it cripple her! She is still a bit shy but that has improved every year. She is amazing to me and deserves the best out of life!
My youngest is a complete opposite of my oldest, from their looks to their personalities! She is full of energy, and never stops moving or talking. She is a smart girl but things don’t come easy for her in school like they do for my oldest. She works hard and gets great grades. She has a serious anxiety issue developing and suffers with depression. She has been treated for the depression for a couple of years now, but the anxiety, although it has always been there, has developed into a disorder lately! She is confident, outgoing and a social butterfly. She is starting to have boyfriends and, as I have always known, will be a teenager to keep an eye on. She is very capable, thoughtful, caring, has tons of friends and feels bad when she does something wrong. She is a people pleaser! She strives to be a good person and therefore she is! She loves and accepts people for who they are, and although she is easily hurt by others, it doesn’t keep her from moving forward. Just like my oldest, she is amazing. She is a terrific person and a beautiful girl! I couldn’t be more proud of her!
I love my girls with all my heart and have always tried to think of them as PEOPLE. They are not just kids, they are small adults in the making and deserve respect and caring. I find so many parents treat kids as if they really aren’t people; they just want to rule them, and that isn’t healthy for any child! We are here to correct them and teach them, but we don’t rule them. They have their own feelings, and although we may not always agree with the way they feel, they deserve to be respected and treated fairly. We must, as parents, take their feelings into consideration when we make decisions in our lives. Every move we make affects them, and it is our job to consider them as well!
We should know them well enough to know how our decisions will affect them and consider that every time we change something in our lives. I believe honesty is the most important thing in your relationship with your kids. How do we teach them to be open and honest yet lie to them about things in their lives. It doesn’t work that way!
I love my girls, and I hope that they always remember that no matter what happens in their lives!
About Shauna Smith
I am the mother of two teenage girls, ages 12 and 15. I love my girls to bits; they are the light of my life!
My life has been a struggle from almost the very start. I have had to deal with depression my entire life basically. About 16 years ago, I was diagnosed with Bipolar II and have been in treatment for it. I am pleased to say that I am doing well with the treatment, but it hasn’t been an easy time.
My illness definitely had a negative effect on my marriage; I was out of control at times, and I know it isn’t easy to live with someone like that. I recently divorced after being separated since 2006, and almost a year ago I met a wonderful, caring man, whom I am still dating.
My life has been difficult, but I worked hard to learn to control what I could about my illness and changed some bad thought processes. After my separation, I realized “Happiness is a choice!” I have always been a real intuitive person, and I think I may be able to help others realize happiness! My goal is to help others achieve true happiness, friendship and support, and that is why I am now working as a partner at LeanOnUs.co.
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